(I understand children. You have to appease them with what they enjoy and what their strengths are. Work with them not the other way around. Make them feel important and not just for now but give them a happy vision of themselves for who they will be in the future. Nothing to specific so that they can still imagine bigger than what you described. So that is my secret. Sum up all their good qualities and how their not so good qualities can be useful to them when they grow up. You have to remember they are little creatures who have only lived on this planet not long to Master anything. To control a strength that looks like a weakness at the time is not easy. What have you Mastered in the last 3 to 5 years or are you still working on it? We expect kids too have control over some powerful and useful energy. Maybe it seems like a nuisance when they are little but as an adult they will need it for success in relationships, careers and handling family and relatives. They should never stop a behavior only redirect it to something positive. Okay so I will take the professional route with this one to certify and justify my opinion on this by doing what I don't do when blogging and put my seal of approval on this one- Raising Awe Inspiring Kids 101, by Petrina Yemane, MA, PC/MHC )
Now many of the children just tell their parents "I will be spending time with Petrina. I'll be at her house" (if you need me). It really is the cutest thing and parents get a tickle out of it. I have another appointment two Saturdays from now. I enjoy that the girls are all nationalities. Honestly, I don't even charge as it helps these mothers. (So when I need assistance, I always have help as well).
Now getting to one of my most fun and memorable play dates was with little Leah. We call her little Leah because my boys also refer to another relative they call big Leah who I was able to encourage and spend time with when she was small also. Now each child has a specialness to them and little Leah has a flare for being girly and speaking her mind. I could imagine that she will be the CEO of her own company one day but for now she loves her pocket books and pink and shiny shoes. This is how our day went:
- Baked Cookies and chatted about girl stuff in school. She did most of the talking and I listened. It was extremely interesting. Girls, birthday parties, "stupid boys", birthday parties, her cousin, mommy and trips of the past, future trips, favorite ice cream, gifts for her birthday that past....
- She is a wizard at her age of 5 when it come to putting puzzles together. For a Christmas gift her mother suggested one of the items to buy was a 100 piece puzzle. Yes at 5! I cannot even put together a 25 piece puzzle, to be honest. So I took out my sons 75 piece so that I could watch her in action. She turned down my request as it was "too BORING" for her! (My son is not interested in puzzles so it has not been used, yet). She wanted to play the new advanced Connect Four Game. It was about a 50/50 win.
- Next we ate our fresh baked cookies with a Disney movie. I love Disney movies.
- While the movie went on, she wanted to pop popcorn, so we did that. I painted her toe nails and finger nails after. They were dried by time the movie was over.
- I gave her a gift of a cute ruffle pink purse that she opened and loved. She played with my sons, her cousin for a while and told on them every chance she had.
- Then she played the Wii with them. Her famous line is, "Why doesn't anyone (the boys) listen to me around here. I get no respect". To which point I have to speak to all of them about fairness and listening to one another.
- Leah then decides that we could listen to some music before her mother comes to pick her up. We chat again about what she likes and I get to add here and there about cool things when I was younger. Her surprise to my youthfulness makes me laugh, which makes her laugh.
- Her Mom comes and she says,"Auntie Petrina, we have to do this again sometimes. Next time, I'll bring the cookies".
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